Some of the things that make a good mother a good mother–
- She’s unconditionally loving to her kids; she chooses to be even when things aren’t going well.
- She puts aside her pride; she doesn’t allow herself to be filled with narcissism, expecting her kids to chase her for communication or active presence in their lives.
- She never lies to them; rather, she is a truthful person, especially to her kids.
- She levels about any mistreatment she’s done; certainly doesn’t say or claim it to be the imagination of her offspring!
- She doesn’t expect or believe that they owe her just because she birthed them! She’s humble, not a mean mother.
- She doesn’t ever mock and make fun of her kids; she honors them and is grateful to have them.
- She is a fair person, never appoints any one or two of her kids to scapegoat–to wear a cruel label upon them and for life–from childhood into adulthood. Instead, she makes certain that each of her offspring is truly accepted, loved, cherished, and treated well fairly as the others.
- She doesn’t get rid of her kids, she never leaves them to forsake and intentionally forget them. In a healthy mother, every one of her kids is important to her. She doesn’t choose a fraction of her family of children to be the completion.
- A good mother doesn’t start arguments, fights, division with/among her children. If she’s not content about something, she still chooses not to be a verbal assaulter.
- She resolves matters without choosing sides among her kids. She knows the value, the importance, of her kids being each other’s best friend. She’s not an insecure mother. Doesn’t play favorites, doesn’t ignore her kid/kids.
- She doesn’t make excuses for her sins. She sincerely apologizes–that she does at all. She doesn’t blame her own kids, or anybody else, for the rotten choices she’s made that affects the family.
- She walks her talk; doesn’t pretend, doesn’t play church.
- She includes all of her kids, doesn’t cause derision among them; and one to have abnormal power over the others.
- She doesn’t glory in the hurts and doesn’t gossip about her kids. She respects their adulthoods, respects them.
- She’s never in competition with her kid/kids. She chooses to be a mature grown-up.
- She doesn’t expect her kids to be perfect. She values each individuality of each one. She knows how to love.
- She works on herself, to better herself as a person, a woman, a mother.
- Being a good mother is a blessing, not ever a sorrow.
- A good mother chooses/has chosen to be a good person; not a perfect mom, but a great mother–a healthy person in society not just in a family–hers.
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Jennifer Mejia says
Beautiful and so very well written. I can completely relate to your writing. As a mother this article is something I can completely relate to and understand. Keep up your amazing blog and writing.
Susan Nuyt says
Thank you, so much, for your message, for your words. Have a very good Memorial Day weekend/holiday <3