I used to be closed-minded, narrow, in my thinking and acceptance of change… You read me?
For growth, positive growth, I find it important to have an open mind to new adventures, a perhaps better way of doing things!– and what does work for somebody doesn’t necessarily work for another. It’s freedom in allowing people to choose their paths; encourage, not hinder. And to truly accept others who are not of the same frame of decision-making to suit, live, and lead their lives. I find individualism of the extreme importance.
So where are you with people? Where are we regarding others?
I’m not in a class all to myself. I’m not afraid to raise my hand here. I, too, have been hidden out of fear of what others might think. I have closed my mouth often times, have walked on eggshells. I’ve also been way the hell boisterous!–appropriately as well as inappropriately putting forth my opinion at times… We all learn. But is it the ‘right’ learning?– who’s to say– Really.
Let people breathe.
Face count, to me, doesn’t really matter; just a number. It isn’t about how many people are in your tribe, in your congregation, in your network, how many like you or genuinely don’t. It’s about, all about, the face change. Change from a status-way of thinking, a judgmental spirit/a sealed shut door conformed into the willingness to accept people as they are. Loving them no matter what. Embracing them, not from the use of crack-the-knuckles-open kind of ruler of status measure.
Each person is an individual.
We are so much more than our birth numbers, organizations, our careers and jobs; a church building or unit of conversation in society.
“Catch up, little fish, catch up!“
What I make effort to be on trend about in doing is going with what I must change–internally as well as outwardly–but keeping one face about it. This goes for everybody. From my belief and standpoint, this is how I feel about it.
See how easy that was?!–putting forth my own agenda into those last two sentences in prior paragraph. That’s what we tend to do. Let me reword it now: “This goes for myself and what I’d like (wish) from others. From my standpoint, this is how I feel about it.”
I refuse to play God.
I just won’t go there. I know what it’s like to get my teeth kicked. And you have, too. We’re not immune to it in our society, in our families with some people; in work environments and such. And in our neighborhoods. Is “getting along” enough? Sometimes it seems to demand more than a willingness. Demanding, a problem…
Having a positive, loving, mindset is getting a face change. The world is evolving, and it’s going to continue to go on with or without us; and ultimately, in the end, without us.
I believe that we ought to not expect of others, of their performance levels on a personal level, of their looks, of their incomes–of perfection. Let’s be imperfect, people.
Let’s bake the “ugly” pie crust. Let’s flop a LOT of cakes. Let’s have some clumps on our eyelashes and be okay with it. Let’s be alone at times and enjoy it–and not blame it on “not being good enough” for somebody.
Let’s be mutual with people; not being under them or over them. Let’s be real with each other. Because, folks, that is displaying healthy humanity; having it and showing it genuinely to others. It’s a beautiful thing to have.
This post is so undone. This can go on in other directions with more time to extend it.
I’m imperfect and I value that about myself. And I just bet that you are so gorgeous in your flaws that make you you–internally and externally.