Removing Fear and Doubt

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It’s the white elephant in the room.  It’s visible, but people choose to ignore it.  They’d like to put a paper bag over its head.  

It’s debilitating.  It keeps a person immobile.  It can be costly.  It’s almost always affective.  It’s everything but positive.  It stifles the will, suffers the soul.  It’s called, ‘fear’, and it leads to isolation.

1. Fear says, “I’m afraid to get too close, so I won’t speak to that person.”
2. Fear says, “I’m afraid something bad will happen, so I’ll be smothering to the person I ‘love’.”   Love casteth out fear…
3. Fear says, “I’m afraid I’ll fail, so I won’t try.”
4. Fear says, “What if they make fun of me?  I can’t live my dream for fear of what they will think.”
5. Fear says, “I’m afraid of having responsibilities, so I’ll have other people take care of me throughout adulthood.”
6. Fear says, “I’m afraid of what’s behind me, so I won’t be observant of what’s in front of me.”
7. Fear says, “I’m afraid of opening up, so I’ll pretend I don’t care.”
8. Fear says, “I’m afraid of knowing the truth, the real situation, so I’ll just assume and stay angry at him or her.”
9. Fear says, “I’m afraid of correcting my own faults, so I’ll blame everyone else.”
10. Fear says, “I’m afraid of fear, so I’ll become an insomniac.”
11. Fear says, “I’m afraid of death, so I’ll pretend it doesn’t exist until I have to lose somebody.  I won’t think about it until I have to.”
12. Fear says, “I’m afraid of gaining weight, so I’ll develop an eating disorder, regardless if I’m fat or thin.”
13. Fear says, “I’m afraid of commitment and being left, so I’ll cheat on every individual that I’m in a relationship with.”
14. Fear says, “I’m afraid of love, so I choose to hate and just act like I love other people to get what I want from them.”
15. Fear says, “I’m afraid of my own achievements, so I’ll just be lazy and stay that way.”
16. Fear says, “I’m afraid of what’s on the other side of the door, so I think I’ll just sleep during the day to avoid the noise, keep the lights off, the shades pulled.”
17. Fear says, “I’m afraid of family togetherness, so I’ll keep division active for my own comfort.”
18. Fear says, “I’m afraid of telling somebody that I love them, so I’ll never let them know, truly, how I feel.”
19. Fear says, “I’m afraid of the end of the world, so I’ll just be a recluse.
20. Fear says, “I’m afraid of true peace of mind, and happiness, so I’ll resort to envy and despising others.”

Doubt is wishy-washy through conceitedness and low self esteem, and lacks faith, but maintains a consistency-negativity…is Fear’s long-lost “love” or close companion; says in conjunction:

1. “I doubt that he or she truly does (or can) like me.”
2. “I doubt that anything good can happen or come my way.”
3. “I doubt that I can be successful.”
4. “I doubt that they’ll ever take me serious.  I doubt that my dreams can come true, that I can make them come alive.”
5. “I doubt that I can take care of myself, really; much less, anyone else.”
6. I doubt that it’s light enough for me to see the path before me, to know what’s in the way.”
7. “I doubt that I can safely care about that person.  He or she does not deserve me because I’m better than everyone else, anyway-that’s just how I roll!… In fact, I’m the best there is!”
8. “I doubt that there’s any good truth in the matter, that there’s genuine good in that person.”
9. “I doubt that I have any r e a l faults.”
10. “I doubt that I’ll ever get a good night’s sleep, again, even though there’s no particular reason why I should be tossing and turning all night.”
11. “I doubt that I’ll ever die young, so why worry even about myself?”
12. “I doubt that I’ll ever look good to win the approval of others, not just myself.”
13. “I doubt that anyone could ever have or want me.”
14. “I doubt that I can honestly be loved.”
15. “I doubt that I’ve got it in me to do great.”
16. “I doubt I’ll ever feel secure, in all aspects of my life.”
17. “I doubt any goodness and trust of a family.”
18. “I doubt that anyone wants to hear me get lovesick over them, to listen to my bullshit.”
19. “I doubt that the world will stay round-I know it’s going to explode at any time because of all the wars and terrorism, and the 666 will occur when I’ve got my drawers down.”
20. “I doubt that I could ever be happy.”

Removing fear and doubt in relation to numbers 1-20:

1. “I’ll trust my gut and say, “hi”; and if it turns out to be a fluke, at least, I tried.  What would it hurt?”
2. “I’ll choose to give freedom to the person I love so there will be genuine comfort, joy, peace, and lasting love between us.”
3. “I’ll believe in myself and know that I can do anything when I put my mind to it!”
4. “It’s their loss if they make fun of me, who cares.  I’m braver than they are!”
5. “I like being my own person.”
6. “I choose not to be an ostrich with its head in the sand.”
7. “I will be a caring and loving person, showing that I care, giving my all to the people in my life because that is my purpose in life-to be the giver of my heart.”
8. “I want to gather facts instead of blowing people out of the water, making a fool out of myself while hurting everyone around me-including myself.”
9. “I’ll work on my bad habits-today!”
10. “I’ll put my worries to bed and do my body good.”
11. “I’ll trust in the Lord with all my heart.”
12. “I’ll eat balanced, as reasonably and as humanly possible.  I’ll learn to love myself inside-out because I am a beautiful person no matter how I look.”
13. “I’ll respect myself by respecting my spouse.  I choose love, real love out of the will of my heart, mind, and actions.”
14. “I’ll stop being a conniver, conning people for my own selfishness, because that’s just a sick way of “living”.
15. “I’ll no longer be sorry and lazy, making myself afraid to work. I’ll be excited in putting forth my best effort, enjoying my own successes!”
16. “I will no longer live in fear, I’ll live unshackled.”
17. “I believe in family unity and for what it stands for.”
18. Saying, “I love you” is already natural for me to say, to convey it and mean it, now.”
19. “I choose to live productively.”
20. “I choose to love with my whole heart, loving my neighbor as myself.”

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